Approaching with confidence and good body language is super important when meeting girls. And that’s because one thing girls are really good at is sizing up a man instantly just by looking at his body language. To successfully approach girls, you absolutely must know the proper way to display that you are a high-value male with your physical presence alone, before you speak a single word.

Otherwise nothing that comes out of your mouth will be able to overcome the hole your poor body language has placed you in. It’s kind of like like a dog that’s growling yet wagging its tail - you might be able to speak some smooth lines, but your body will be sending a conflicting message, ultimately dooming your approach. On the other hand, if you have good, strong, positive body language, you will automatically generate a little bit of attraction in your target from the get-go, and open the door to continue the interaction. Girls will notice you first, and they will instantly classify you in their minds as a potentially worthy male.

Now, we all know the approach is one of the most critical stages of meeting women. The approach is where you can successfully transition into a successful conversation where you are actually interacting with a girl, opening the door to lead to an actual relationship. The approach can also be the time you get blown out instantly without having had any chance to show your real self and the awesome guy that you are.

And body language is probably the most critical component of the approach - more important than the words you actually say. Did you get that? Body language is MORE important than the actual words you say during the initial approach. And that’s because most human communication, up to 90% according to some studies, is nonverbal.

We all probably agree that most people make very fast judgments of other people based on appearance. But girls are even more sensitive to their initial gut reaction to other people. This means you literally have just a few precious seconds to display good body language and create a positive impression in your target’s mind. You basically want to show through your body movements alone that you are an “Alpha Male.” If you have uncertain mannerisms and movements, or seem indecisive in the way you walk and look around, you can be written off by your target instantly.

So just how do you display alpha male body language?

First of all, stand up straight with good posture. Hold your head up proudly. Do NOT fidget with your fingers or hide your face or chest with a drink or beer bottle. Put your hands at your sides and keep them open, showing your palms (this indicates you are not hiding anything and are trustworthy). Take up a lot of room, more than you may initially feel comfortable with. An alpha male takes up a lot of space, and doesn’t “shrink into” himself. Stand with your feet wide apart and scan the room slowly, don’t dart or jerk your head quickly as you survey your surroundings. Move deliberately and slower than you would normally. Never shuffle your feet when you walk.

You want to always move purposefully in a direct manner. Approach your target assertively and with confidence by making eye contact and not seeming wishy-washy in your approach. Don’t forget to smile! This is so key. Again, SMILE! It makes a huge difference in how friendly you are perceived to be. Generally, you want to appear friendly and sociable (with everyone, not just pretty girls).

At the same time, don’t be needy. A groveling, sniveling smile is quite different from a broad, devil-may-care grin. Don’t turn your feet and body toward the girl all the way off the bat. Get her to make an investment in the interaction by replying to you, smiling, or displaying other positive indicators of interest. Only then should you “reward” her by giving her more and more of your attention through body posture and conversation.

Be relaxed and don’t appear worried about the outcome of the conversation. You’re a cool guy and this chick should be happy to get the chance to talk to you! Show that in your posture and mannerisms. Don’t cling on her every word and affirm everything she says with a fast, constant nodding. Look away casually and slowly scan the room once in a while, as if you could leave at any time unless she captures your interest.

These are the basics, but it cannot be emphasized enough how important maintaining these simple tactics are in the allowing of and maintaining of attraction in your target. Again, you can say all the right things, but when it comes to approaching, body language speaks volumes louder than anything that comes out of your mouth.

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